Do you think other people are responsible for your happiness? Do find yourself saying if only she or he would change I would be happy? How much time do you spend hoping and waiting for others to change to meet your picture of what you want? This is the importance of sharing the pictures we have in our head…the things we want in our future, how we will parent children, our values around money, etc.
Sometimes I see people who say “if only” he would change, she would change” or why can’t they be more like me? When you spend your time trying to get someone else to change to meet your picture of who you want them to be the danger is “resentment” and resentment destroys relationships. So what is the answer?
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