This quote is so true. If we are unable to meet our needs with the significant people in our lives, often we switch to pleasure seeking behaviour. That pleasure seeking behaviour often involves drugs, alcohol, and sex and other addictive behaviour. In my experience working with youth many years ago, when I discovered they were using drugs and alcohol to feel better, I would ask them if they had given up on people. Would you believe that 95% of the time the answer was yes.
The story was often that no one cares about me. My parents are always yelling at me to do something that I don’t want to to or they think they know what is best for me but they never ask me what I want. The teachers at school hate me too! Nobody really cares. You are the first person who seems to care.
I learned these ideas 30 plus years ago so I could have the tools to work with and help these youth and their families. I remain as passionate today as I was then when it comes to using these tools. If you would like to learn them as well join me for our next Basic Intensive in Choice TheoryⓇ starting September 26, 2023. Find out more and contact me here: www.choicetheorytraining.com