During this pandemic I am hearing lots of stories about how difficult it can be on our relationships. Let’s face it. It is not normal for most people to be with their significant others 24/7. This is happening more and more and add to that the fact, that we are caught with our children being home, while we try to work at our jobs.
So how are you managing this? Are you able to meet your needs within your relationships during this time? When we enter into a relationship with someone, there are three entities.
These include two people, and the third entity is what you have between you, which is the relationship.
Here is the thing. With valentines coming soon we have pictures in our head of how we want things to be and sometimes we expect our partners just to know that. When was the last time you were able to read someone’s mind? Oh, yes, after living together for a long time, it may seem like we read each other’s minds and we probably do by the brain waves we send out.
Most of the time though, we cannot read another’s mind. We need to ask for what we need and want. For some this may be difficult, but I digress. A lot of issues arise in a relationship because of our expectations that we have never conveyed. This is why I speak about the relationship as the third entity.
You both have a responsibility to what you have between you which is “the relationship”. Are you adding to your relationship or taking away from that which you have between you, your relationship? Since valentines is getting close and we have been in closer physical proximity for a long period of time, I offer you my three relationship videos. All you need to do is sign up here: www.monctonrealitytherapy.ca and you will gain access to those videos.
Beyond that, if you would like more help or want to learn more, please contact me at the address below.
