As I watched the Figure Skating Dance Competition, I could not help thinking about what it takes as two people to dance together on skates as much as they have to do to make the Olympics and then to skate a flawless skate.
I was in awe of the connection and trust between these dancers on skates. Do they have to really like each other? They spend hour upon hour together perfecting their craft. What happens when things do not go as planned? How do they handle the relationship issues? It takes a lot of dedication!
Even a brother and sister that skated together have to have a special partnership/bond. Can you imagine what the agreement must be? Most of us struggle in our relationships with siblings at some point in our lives and yet they appear on the ice and skate to perfect in total harmony!
I was pondering about relationships. Do we fight for our intimate relationships to the extent that Olympic athletes must do in any pair competition? What if we truly did that? I am sure that there are hundreds of people that fight for their relationships in the same way.
There were people all over the world staying up at all hours to catch the pairs skate. Why is that? What does it bring us beyond the gold metal? I like to think it brings “ hope” to all relationships. Seriously some skating couples never make it beyond the first level because they have not developed the passion and the commitment to fight together to reach that goal.
Is marriage not the same way? Do we commit and struggle and fight for our relationships or do we simply say. “ I can always just leave”. We all need someone significant in our life who cares enough about us to lift us up! Who are you lifting today?
Is there huge trust in your relationships? Are you like the skaters and just trust that you will get through this together whatever it is? Even when the skaters had a flaw or a fall, there was no display of the deadly habits. Trust, honesty and respect are the three key ingredients to a good relationship. That does not mean there are not struggles but do we use those behaviors to develop our best relationship possible?
Yours in growing awareness
Maureen
maureen@monctorealitytherapy.ca
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