What are the qualities of a good relationship? Have you even thought about it? What is this elusive thing called love?
These are my three favorite questions when people are having relationships issues. Do you have a picture of the ideal relationship? So often the answer is “ sort of .” Where do we get our relationship education?
I will hear things like I just want to be treated with respect, openness and honesty. How do you know you have that? You see sometimes we have a picture in our head of how we would like our relationships to be but we don’t believe it is possible or our picture is like Pie in the Sky.
People tell me love is a feeling. Love is not a feeling. Chemistry is the feeling that brings us together but loving behaviors keep us together.
If you are with someone who discounts your feelings by telling you that you should not feel a certain way, puts you down all the time, tells you that you will never manage something , disrespects you and does not listen, this is not love. This is about the need for power.
Loving behavior is a behavior designed to help us be our best selves. When someone truly loves you they support and encourage you. They listen to you and respect and trust you. It is about wanting to give more to the relationship that receive from the relationship.
Our choice theory training is designed to help you sort all this out. We teach about behavior and how to get more of what you need and want. You will also receive the tools to help others do the same.
Our next online training starts September 18, 2018 at 4pm ADT. Check it out here: www.choicetheoryonline.com
Our next in person training starts October 10, 2018 at 9am. To register: www.choicetheorytraining.com or contact me directly
Yours in growing awareness
Maureen
