Not My Job!

Not My Job!


I just read a meme about taking care of yourself and setting boundaries. This is something I learned a long time ago that is a necessary part of my life and yours too! After all, if we do not take care of us, we will not be able to help anyone else.


I also read another article about a mom and wife who took on everyone’s problems and issues. Then one day she realized that the only person she can control is herself. No matter how much she helped her family members they were always coming back with another problem, and she would have a solution which usually resulted in her doing something for them.


She realized that she was working way too hard, and her energy was getting lower and lower. The next time someone had an issue she acknowledged it by telling them she was sorry to hear this and she was sure they would work it out. One by one, she did this with each family member. They thought something was wrong with her.


What she learned was that she was simply enabling poor behavior and not holding others responsible for their behaviour. She thought she had to have all the answers. Once she realized she could not control another’s behaviour she became more supportive and permitted them to handle their own issues.


You see as parents, unless we believe our children can handle their difficulties why would they think they could? She became more energetic and the family was growing more and more independent.


These are ideas that we teach in our Choice Theory Training. We offer you the tools to help yourself and others take responsibility for their own behaviour. We help you find ways to improve mental health by creating healthy relationship connections We do this in small groups in a fun learning environment.


My next training in Choice Theory, Reality Therapy and Lead Management starts September 20 and will go for two mornings a week over 3 weeks. It will be done over Zoom, so no need to leave your home or office.  Find out more by visiting or contact me by replying to this e-mail.

Maureen has been teaching this ideas for over 35 years. She is a Senior Faculty Member with William Glasser International, A Licensed Counselling Therapist and Certified Personal and Executive Coach.