Dr. Glasser wrote about the 7 deadly habits that kill relationships and the 7 caring habits that build relationships.Let’s discuss one of the deadly habits that we have on social media right now.
- Criticism comes of as being controlling. Glasser believed that people, especially children, have a basic need for control in their lives. When we criticize someone, we essentially take away their sense of autonomy, making them feel disempowered. Criticism invites push back from the other person and it undermines the goal of creating personal responsibility and self-control.
- It can damage self-esteem, leaving a sense of not having value (or unworthiness) It creates a lack of motivation to improve.
- In family and school environments criticism is often seen as a tool to enforce authority and control behavior. This often leads to conflict, resistance and negative outcomes as opposed to real behavior change.
- Criticism is a barrier to personal growth. It fosters negative emotions, weakens relationships, and undermines an individual’s sense of responsibility and self-worth.
Join us this September 19-21 and Learn about encouraging personal responsibility, replacing criticism with connection, problem solving without criticism. In other words, learn the caring habit to replace criticizing. DM me for more information.
