The Wonderful World of ” Try “

Today I am going to “ try “ to get my video completed! Whenever I say something like that I know I am not committed to it.  You see, there is no such thing as “ try”; yet it is a word we use every day without blinking an eye!

I will try to get this blog written! Well, I will either do it or I won’t. If I say: “ I tried to get it done yesterday”, did I really? What exactly did I do to try? How trying is all this?

OK, I know I am getting carried away but this is another one of those words that indicates some interest and also says, it is not a priority for me.  The best example I have seen of this is when many years ago, a teacher picked up a pencil and looked at me and said: “ Try to take this pencil from me”. I reached over and took the pencil.

He looked at me and said: You see there is no such thing as try. You either take it or you don’t. This was a valuable lesson. I am going to try to take the dog for a walk! My guess is you will either take the dog for a walk or you will not.

Become aware of how often we use the word “ try”. What message are we sending to ourselves and to others when we say that? Check in with yourself and ask yourself what you are intending to say.

I am as guilty as the next person. I will try to get my video done today! Actually, here is the truth. When my recording space is freed up today, I will do the video or maybe I will choose not to do the video at all.

Part of the reason we do not move forward sometimes is because we are not using the right language to ourselves.  If I say I am doing my video today, the changes are it will get done. If I say I will try to get it done today, I am not sure what will happen and it is perceived as a stall tactic.  Maybe I am leaving my options open to goof off for the day!


Maureen has been teaching this ideas for over 35 years. She is a Senior Faculty Member with William Glasser International, A Licensed Counselling Therapist and Certified Personal and Executive Coach.