Posts by Grammy Mo

Judge Not Want Not This is a lesson I learned early on in learning the ideas of Dr. William Glasser.  You see at that time I was making judgments all the time. As a nurse, I was taught to judge.  Judge the condition of my patients, judge the work of others, judge the right amount of medicine to give, etc.  I believe we make judgments, minute by minute daily. Without being able to judge, we would not survive So what is judgment? According to the Oxford Dictionary The ability to make considered decisions or come to sensible conclusions:   an…

I love my life! This week I had a conversation about guilt on more than one occasion. It has been a long time since I have had this conversation.  I can remember many times in my past that I had been guilt ridden. In fact, there was so much guilt it was like I was caught in a trap! How about you? Do you find yourself in the “ guilt trap” ? So what is guilt? “Guilt is a cognitive or an emotional experience that occurs when a person realizes or believes—accurately or not—that he or she has compromised his…

Hallelujah by Leonard Cohen is a love song. "Love is not a victory march," he says, "It's a cold and it's a broken Hallelujah." Life's like that too. Our successes are public, but behind closed doors everybody has their cold and broken moments. The happiest couples you know have faced real private struggles. The business people you think of as being a total success regularly face failure and moments of intense fear and vulnerability. Love at its fullest means surrendering yourself completely to another person. It means shedding your armor and letting yourself be seen. No more hiding behind the…

The other day I read an article about unpacking relationship baggage.  As I read the article I could not help but notice how draining, carrying old baggage can be. You see when one carries relationship baggage, they are carrying unhappy memories about past relationships. If one is not aware of these, they carry those memories into new relationships and are never quite fully present. As I pondered that, I wondered, would it not be more worthwhile if one could be empowered to dump the baggage before the next relationship. Could it be worthwhile  to have a clear picture of what…