Posts by Grammy Mo

It all started when I was working with youth as a Registered Nurse Counselor in Sexual Health. After two years of working there, I realized I needed more skills. I could not continue the way I was working because I knew I would not last. My heart was full of empathy for the youth I was working with and there were many that I just wanted to take home with me!

I decided to take a Counselling Course at the University of New Brunswick, where I met a professor, who encouraged me to study the ideas of Dr. William Glasser. He suggested that the tools I would learn would really help me with the youth.

I took my first basic in 1987 and have not looked back since! The tools I gained as a nurse, counselor and now coach have served me my entire life since then. As a professional we want tools to help other people gain more effective control over their own lives. We want teachers to feel empowered in the classroom and to be able to manage the classroom in such a way that the students want to learn and they can teach.

As a manager, we want a positive work environment and employees that are happy to work with and for us.  If we do not understand human behavior, it is difficult to be competent and yet competency is what most of us want.

I have been a member of the Faculty of William Glasser International since 1988 and I continue to teach these ideas.  All I have ever experienced in teaching these ideas is inspired, excited learners! Most say it is the best training they have ever experienced!

I have spent a lifetime working with people and the most efficient and effective tools I ever received, I got in this training. I continue to learn and grow and can apply recent research about the brain and other learning back to these ideas. Dr. William Glasser was a world renowned psychiatrist that gave us so much about Mental Health and Happiness.

Does this appeal to you? Do you need for tools for your tool kit? Do you want tools that can serve you for a lifetime?

Check here: http://monctonrealitytherapy.com/choice-theory-training

Yours in growing awareness

Maureen

maureen@monctonrealitytherapy.ca

“ I am having a really bad day! The boss is upset and is all over me for some stupid thing I did and if you had not been in such a terrible mood this morning, it would not have been so bad!” End of Text!

Reply: “ Thanks a lot! Now I am having a bad day, no thanks to you!!” End of text

What is wrong with this picture? Many things can be read into it but here is the bottom line.  Before cell phones were invented, we might have had an actual conversation about what was happening but it would have been at the end of the working day once you both have returned home.

Now, everything happens in real time. The issue with this is that not only is the person writing it having a bad day but so now is the person receiving it and what follows is a flurry of texts that basically are using the deadly habits and causing a feud to escalate into a series of texts that basically are taking both people away from their tasks for the day at work.

This would not have happened prior to the cell phone. In general, people would have a conversation at the end of the day and try to work things out. Now with what I call “ the third voice” in the conversation the battle escalates all day long building more and more resentment.

What is the number one killer of relationships? Unresolved resentments! Couples need to make some rules around the engagement they are going to have through the regular workday.

What is “ the third voice “ bringing to your relationships? How do you interpret your third voice?  You see: it is impossible to interpret the written word as it is intended. We can only receive it as we perceive it and attach our meaning to it. What will you do with those texts? Do you have a management plan?

Yours in growing awareness

Maureen