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    What comes first our thoughts or our feelings? This is a very common discussion in my world. It is like the chicken or the egg or at least it seems that way. We just cannot help how we feel at any given time but we can change how we feel indirectly. Let me explain. If someone says something to me that is offensive in some way, I will feel a brief involuntary burst of pain. If I continue to focus on what was said and I tell myself stories about what was said, I will perpetuate my bad…

Last evening was the first time I facilitated training in the evening in a very long time and I goofed! You see, I carried a daytime habit over into the evening. I drank water the whole time. The funny thing is, we were talking about the old brain and the new brain and the difference between the two according to Dr. William Glasser’s Choice Theory. The old brain is the lower part of the brain located at the top of the spinal column and is responsible for our survival, food, water, air and reproduction to name a few. It is…

This morning I saw a post about a young girl fighting for the right to play little league baseball in 1972. It reminded me of my own challenge. Oh, How I loved baseball! I wanted to play in the league so badly it was crazy. Growing up in a small town I never missed a game that my two brothers played in. I was more fortunate than many, since my father helped as a coach, I was able to go with him and I was permitted to warm up the pitchers between innings. Yes, I was not permitted to play…

What are the qualities of a good relationship? Have you even thought about it? What is this elusive thing called love? These are my three favorite questions when people are having relationships issues. Do you have a picture of the ideal relationship? So often the answer is “ sort of .” Where do we get our relationship education? I will hear things like I just want to be treated with respect, openness and honesty. How do you know you have that? You see sometimes we have a picture in our head of how we would like our relationships to be…